This article explores the ethical dimensions of researching intimate others, focusing on relational ethics. Relational ethics emphasizes the importance of mutual respect, dignity, and connectedness between the researcher and the participants, as well as among researchers and the communities they work with. The author, Carolyn Ellis, draws on her own experiences in ethnography and autoethnography to discuss the ethical responsibilities researchers have towards identifiable others, including those who are alive and those who have died. She examines the challenges of writing about intimate others, such as protecting their identities, dealing with privacy and consent, and deciding when to share the work with the participants. Ellis also reflects on the ethical issues in co-constructed autoethnographies, which circumvent some of the ethical concerns in traditional qualitative studies on unfamiliar others while avoiding some of the ethical dilemmas in writing about intimate others. The article concludes with advice for researchers who wish to write about intimate others, emphasizing the need to balance disclosure and restraint, and to consider the potential impact on the relationships and lives of those involved.This article explores the ethical dimensions of researching intimate others, focusing on relational ethics. Relational ethics emphasizes the importance of mutual respect, dignity, and connectedness between the researcher and the participants, as well as among researchers and the communities they work with. The author, Carolyn Ellis, draws on her own experiences in ethnography and autoethnography to discuss the ethical responsibilities researchers have towards identifiable others, including those who are alive and those who have died. She examines the challenges of writing about intimate others, such as protecting their identities, dealing with privacy and consent, and deciding when to share the work with the participants. Ellis also reflects on the ethical issues in co-constructed autoethnographies, which circumvent some of the ethical concerns in traditional qualitative studies on unfamiliar others while avoiding some of the ethical dilemmas in writing about intimate others. The article concludes with advice for researchers who wish to write about intimate others, emphasizing the need to balance disclosure and restraint, and to consider the potential impact on the relationships and lives of those involved.